Anger Management Workbook

Anger Busting Workbook

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and joy for their lives. There was no guarantee that this plan would fix everything, of course. Still, she was so tired of the abuse; she was devastated by the look of pain and fear in her children's eyes after each rage event. She was ready to take the risk.

She was glad about one thing. Her counselor suggested that she ask Dan to attend just this one session. They agreed she would explain to Dan that in order for the counselor to have a clear understanding of how to help Liza with her problems her therapist needed to ask Dan a few questions. Dan was very glad for the opportunity to go and help get Liza straightened out. So here they were, sitting in the relative calm and safety of the therapist's office. Dan was on his best behavior. At least for the moment.

Therapist: Dan, thanks for coming in this afternoon. I know you had to rearrange your duties at work.

Dan: Well, I am glad to help if I can. Just as long as this doesn't drag on too long.

Therapist: I don't think it will. Actually, all you need to do right now is just sit back and listen. I want to start by asking Liza to read something she has written.

Liza, you're up.

Liza: (swallowing hard) Dan, before I say anything else, I want you to know that I love you very much. The things I am about to share with you are only intended to help our marriage and our family become stronger, happier and healthier. (She was surprised at how calm she sounded; calmer than she felt, that's for sure.) Now, I have come to some decisions I want to share with you.

I have decided that the way you express anger around me and the kids is hurtful, irresponsible and destructive Because it is hurtful, irresponsible and destructive, I have decided I will no longer tolerate your inappropriate expression of anger around me and the kids at any time for any reason.

Dan: (interrupting) Hey, what is this! I thought

Therapist: (interrupting Dan's interruption) Dan, I will make sure you get a chance to respond in a minute. But Liza has to finish her assignment first. Liza, go ahead.

Liza: (another deep breath) I have decided to ask you to begin anger management therapy immediately, giving serious attention to correcting the behaviors on this list. (She handed Dan a list of 12 behaviors she wanted Dan to change.)

Therapist: (noticing that Dan's face was starting to turn red) Take a deep breath Dan, we are almost done with Liza's part. Then it will be your turn. This is very important. Go ahead, Liza.