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Anger Check Up

broke the camel's back. Michael ripped into her for over 10 minutes about all that he was doing to keep this family financially solvent, reminding her that this was her own stupid fault for having such a stupid job at such a stupid store and wasn't there anyone around here that appreciated hard work anymore? After unleashing his very loud, very harsh broadside, he stormed out of the house, slamming the door behind him. Retreating to his workshop, he stayed there, working of course, for the rest of the night.

And so for the past three days it was like living in Antarctica. Kelsey and Michael spoke to each other in three-word sentences and the kids walked on eggshells when their dad was in the room, which wasn't that often. The pain and sadness in Kelsey's face said all that needed to be said, anyway. Michael's face looked like it had been carved out of Mt. Rushmore. Finally, on the third day, today, Michael came home with a kind of different look in his eyes; a little bit scared, a little bit sheepish, and maybe just a little bit apologetic. He took her into their bedroom, where they both sat down on the edge of the bed. With speech that was halting and quiet, he began this conversation:

Michael: Honey, I have been doing some thinking today and ... well ... (his voice trailed off for a second).

Kelsey: About what?

Michael: Uh, I just wanted you to know that I think you were probably right the other day, about me working too much and all. And ... well, ... I was wrong to act the way I did. I'm still not sure how much time I can clear out on Saturday, but I am going try to find a way to free up at least half of the day. Go ahead and plan whatever you think would be fun. I really do want to be with you and the kids.

Kelsey: (after a long, astonished pause) Michael, I don't know what to say; well, besides thank-you and that sounds wonderful. I just have one question ... what made you change your mind.

Michael: (taking a long, deep breath) Well, you are probably going to think this is pretty weird. You know that really churchy guy I work with named Bill? Nice guy, but I always thought he came on a little too strong about God and all. Anyhow, he could see I was really bummed out when I got to work the other day, and when he asked me what was wrong I was just mad enough to tell him. You know what he said? He said, "Mike, the quickest way to end a tug of war is to let go of your end of the rope." Isn't that strange? He also asked me to at least be open to the idea that God might help me if I would just ask. Well, I couldn't get that thought out of my mind. So, this morning, on the way to work, I told God I was willing to let go of my end of the rope, if he would just help me figure out what to do next. And here I am, letting go. You were right. I was wrong. I don't know exactly what to do now.

Kelsey: I do. And she leaned over and gave him a huge, iceberg-melting kiss.

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