From Rage to Resolution

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Anger Management Classes & Anger Programs

How often do you sit up in bed at night thinking, "Why didn't I say... ?? ?." or "I should have said... ?? ? ?? ??

How do you respond to anger-producing and difficult situations effectively so that you would feel like a winner instead of a mentally inadequate and dumb victim?

The key is to recognize how rage bubbles up in daily life.

Understanding the psychology or the theory behind rage might be interesting, but it is not very useful. After all, you are not dealing with mentally ill people. You are dealing with normal folks who are attempting to express their valid hostility in socially acceptable ways. Sometimes, through no fault of your own, you get caught up in their web of rage. Because you may not recognize the other person's anger it for what it is, you can find no way to deal with it except to retaliate with your own rage or run away feeling inadequate to the situation. Here's an example from the book.

You and your spouse are having dinner at the home of some very close friends. During the hors d'oeuvres, the other couple begins to take pot shots at one another. By the time the main course is on the table, your hosts are into a full-blown argument. You and your spouse are extremely uncomfortable, especially when you are invited to side with one or the other. You inhale the meal and depart as quickly as possible. On the way home, you ask each other if you should have done something other than run away. Perhaps you should have said something - but what? The situation has left you and your spouse feeling used and deficient.

When one person disrespects another there is a strong desire for reprisal. People are very creative with their efforts to "get even" and will retaliate in ways hat make it impossible for the offending person fight back. Here is another example from the book.

A late spring snowstorm had closed the Boston airport; all flights had been delayed or canceled. A large and very aggravated businessman toting a fold-over hanging suit bag, a bulging briefcase and dragging a small wheelie suitcase behind him stepped up to the ticket clerk and in a loud voice demanded to know when his flight was going to get off the ground. The ticket clerk in her nicest manner smiled and patiently explained that all flights were being momentarily delayed due to the snow, and as soon as it was deemed safe, the flights would continue. Not satisfied with her response, the man raised his voice several decibels and exclaimed, "Because of your insane fear of a little snow, I will miss my connection. I have a critical meeting to attend in Omaha and it's going to be your fault that I'm late, missy!â ?? ?

"But sir... ?? ?, she responded, "We are concerned for your safety and as soon as flight operations notify us, you'll be on your way." The man then became abusive with the ticket clerk, calling her, among other things, a deceitful moron who was delaying his flight only until every passenger seat was occupied. Very sweetly she again explained that the situation was beyond her control, and as soon as it was safe for the flights to resume, he would be on his way.

With a mighty heave, the man launched his fold-over suit bag at the ticket clerk. This was quickly followed by his small wheelie bag. Then he tossed his ticket at her. After ducking out of the way, the clerk proceeded with the check-in process. Muttering under his breath, the man then stomped off.

A young woman was the next in line. She commiserated with the clerk. "He was so awful to you. One person like that could ruin your whole day, yet here you are smiling and doing your job just as if nothing had happened. Don't you wish you could have smacked him in the face?" "Oh, we have our waysâ ?? ?, responded the clerk with a gleeful smile. "He's going to Omaha, but his luggage is going to Oahu.â ?? ?

The ticket clerk's customer service training prevented her from speaking up to this very rude man. She was unwilling to see herself as abused and helpless, so she struck back by sending the customer's to the wrong destination. If called upon to explain the misrouted luggage she could slough it off by explaining, "Oh, my, I must have made a mistake. We were in such a turmoil with the weather delays and cancellations and allâ ?? ?.â ?? ?

When a person expresses their resentment by creating problems for the target of their hostility, the behavior is labeled passive aggressive. The problem with this kind of behavior, as this situation illustrates, is that the other party seldom gets the actual message. This businessman will go away believing that his misrouted luggage was just a mistake made by the airlines' inept staff.

DeAnne Rosenberg.

Anger Management Classes & Anger Programs