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Anger in the Workplace:
Anger Management: An Overview for Counselors
Anger. Everybody experiences it
and everybody expresses it. It is a natural and
healthy human emotion when managed effectively.
But it can be a source of various physical,
mental, emotional, social, or legal problems
when not managed effectively. It is often a
problem in one of these areas that brings a
client in for counseling, either on a voluntary
or a mandated basis. As a counselor, there are
numerous and varied options for intervention.
And there are numerous and varied aspects to
consider before selecting an appropriate
intervention.
DEFINING ANGER
There are many different views from which to
consider the construct of anger. Dahlen and
Deffenbacher (2001) identify three main
ingredients to anger. First, there is an
anger-eliciting stimulus, typically an
easily-identifiable external source (e.g.,
somebody did something to me) or internal
source (e.g., emotional wounds). Second, there
is a pre-anger state, which includes one's
cognitive, emotional, and physical state at the
time of provocation; one's enduring
psychological characteristics; and one's
cultural messages about anger and about
expressing anger. Third, there is one's
appraisal of the anger-eliciting stimulus and
one's ability to cope with the stimulus. All
three of these ingredients interact to create a
state of being angry.
Dahlen and Deffenbacher (2001) also identify
four related domains in which anger exists.
First, in the emotional and experiential
domain, anger is a feeling state ranging in
intensity from mild annoyance to rage and fury.
Second, in the physiological domain, anger is
associated with adrenal release, increased
muscle tension, and activation of the
sympathetic nervous system.
Third, in the cognitive domain, anger is
associated with biased information processing.
Fourth, in the behavior domain, anger can be
either functional (e.g., being assertive,
setting limits) or dysfunctional (e.g., being
aggressive, withdrawing, using alcohol and
drugs, etc.).
Rhoades (n.d.) provides additional ways to
understand anger. What is the source and
expression of the anger? Is it intense and
situation-specific or chronic and generalized?
What is the extent of the anger? Does it easily
and quickly evolve into deep feelings of
resentment? Is it coupled with intense
aggression or explosiveness? Has it become
uncontrollable? What is the anger hiding? Is it
a cover-up for fear, being used as a shield to
keep other people at a distance so they are
unable to see one's insecurities and
weaknesses?
EXPRESSING ANGER
The expression of anger can take many forms.
Some common means of expressing anger include
venting, resisting, seeking revenge, expressing
dislike, avoiding the source of anger, and
seeking help (Marion, 1997). However, in many
cultures, people are taught that while
expressing anxiety, depression or other
emotions is acceptable, expressing anger is not
(Controlling anger before it controls you, n.d.).
As a result, many people never learn how to
handle their own or others' anger effectively
or to channel it constructively.
Gorkin (2000) distinguishes between the
intention and the usefulness of anger
expressions. In terms of intention, the
expression of anger can be purposeful or
spontaneous. The purposeful expression of anger
is intentional, has a significant degree of
consideration or calculation, and yields a high
degree of self-control. The spontaneous
expression of anger is immediate, has little
premeditation, and yields little to moderate
self-control.
In terms of usefulness, the expression of anger
can be constructive or destructive.
Constructive expression of anger affirms and
acknowledges one's integrity and boundaries
without intention to threaten another person.
Destructive expression of anger defensively
projects and rigidly fortifies one's vulnerable
identity and boundaries. These distinctions
provide for four basic expressions of anger.
Purposeful and constructive expression leads to
assertion. Purposeful and destructive
expression leads to hostility. Spontaneous and
constructive expression leads to passion and
suffering. And spontaneous and destructive
expression leads to rage, violence, screaming,
and hitting. With respect to rage, one can be
outraged, by a seemingly clear and external
(sometimes criminal) target, or one can be
"in-raged" (Gorkin, 2000), by a reaction to
still unresolved internal hurts and
humiliations (vs. actual, immediate
stimulus-and-response provocation).
Although much of the work in anger management
focuses on helping people understand what
triggers their anger and on learning a
healthier response, or expression, of that
anger, the debate continues regarding the
healthiest ways to express anger.
Interestingly, some sources (e.g., Schwartz,
1990) indicate that repressing anger can be
adaptive for coping with certain emotions.
Other sources (e.g., Controlling anger before
it controls you, n.d.) document that
suppressing anger can lead to headaches,
hypertension, high blood pressure, depression,
emotional disturbances, gastrointestinal
disorders, respiratory disorders, skin
disorders, genitourinary disorders, arthritis,
disabilities of the nervous system, circulatory
disorders, and even suicide. It is important to
learn to identify whether or not a client's
reactions to and expressions of anger are a
problem.
ASSESSING ANGER
How does a client know when his or her anger is
more of a problem than a help? Few formal
assessments exist to quantifiably measure the
level of one's anger. However, there are
numerous qualitative indicators to review with
clients to understand the extent of their
concerns about their anger and anger management
strategies.
• Is the anger chronic, long-lasting, too
intense, or too frequent (Rhoades, n.d.)?
• Does the anger disrupt the client's thinking,
affect the client's relationships (Rhoades, n.d.),
or affect the client's school or work
performance?
• Does the client exhibit frequent loss of
temper at slight provocations,
passive-aggressive behavior, a cynical or
hostile personality, chronic irritability and
grumpiness?
• Has the client begun to display low
self-esteem, sulking, or brooding?
• Is the client withdrawing socially from
family and friends?
• Is the client getting physically sick or
doing damage to one's own or others' bodies or
property?
• Is the client experiencing physical symptoms
such as increased heart rate, increased blood
pressure, or increased adrenaline flow
(Controlling anger before it controls you, n.d.)?
Although some of these symptoms may be
indicative of other issues, they are also often
related to unresolved anger. The bottom line is
that when a person becomes a victim to his or
her anger, the anger is a problem.
MANAGING ANGER
According to Wellness Reproductions (1991),
there are three main methods of dealing with
anger. First, there is "stuffing" one's anger,
a process in which a person may or may not
admit his or her anger to self or others and in
which one avoids direct confrontations. A
person may stuff his or her anger out of fear
of hurting someone, fear of rejection, fear of
damaging relationships or fear of losing
control. Often, a person who stuffs anger is
unable to cope with strong, intense emotions
and thinks that anger is inappropriate or
unacceptable. Stuffing one's anger typically
results in impaired relationships and
compromised physical and mental health.
Second, there is escalating one's anger, a
process in which a person provokes blame and
shame. The purpose is to demonstrate power and
strength while avoiding the expression of
underlying emotions. A person who escalates his
or her anger is often afraid of getting close
to other people and lacks effective
communication skills. Escalating one's anger
typically yields short-term results, impaired
relationships, and compromised physical and
mental health. Sometimes, escalating one's
anger also leads to physical destruction of
property or to abusive situations, thus adding
the potential for legal ramifications.
Third, there is managing one's anger, a process
in which a person is open, honest, and direct
and in which one mobilizes oneself in a
positive direction. The focus is on the
specific behavior that triggered the anger and
on the present (past issues are not brought
into the current issue). A person who manages
his or her anger avoids black and white
thinking (e.g., never, always, etc.), uses
effective communication skills to share
feelings and needs, checks for possible
compromises, and assesses what is at stake by
choosing to stay angry versus dealing with the
anger. Managing one's anger results in an
increased energy level, effective communication
skills, strengthened relationships, improved
physical and mental health, and boosted
self-esteem.
SUMMARY
It is this process of managing one's anger that
is the primary goal of counseling people to
effectively deal with anger. The goal is not to
eliminate anger. Anger is a natural and healthy
emotion. After a client acknowledges he or she
is angry, a counselor can help the client learn
how to reduce the emotional and physiological
arousal that anger causes and learn to control
its effects on people and the environment. To
be more effective, practitioners should attempt
to understand the extent and expression of the
anger, the specific problems resulting from the
anger, the function the anger serves, the
underlying source of the anger, and the domain
the problems occur in (e.g. emotional,
physiological, or cognitive) before choosing
interventions for the client. Specific
strategies and skills as well as some
additional considerations in helping clients
manage anger are reviewed in Anger Management
Counseling Strategies and Skills.
Source: Eileen Hogan
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The 2003 movie "Anger Management" starring Adam Sandler and Jack Nicholson gave us some insight into the increasing problem of anger. While we sat in the theater or watched the DVD, we were able to take a break from the pressures of our real world. We were given an insight into an ordinary guy who seems to have some of the worst luck in the country. His bad luck leads him to anger and at times rage.
Nicholson is able to 'push every button' Sandler possesses. We thought to ourselves the name of that individual who seems to push our buttons also.
We all get angry. For some of us when we get angry, we act out. Our actions have reactions - oftentimes resulting in very serious consequences. Some of those actions have brought about the end of a relationship, loss of employment, or legal action against us.
Our "anger resolution" approach is to deal with the anger situation head-on and to determine what triggers the anger. Then we determine how the anger emotion is translated into actions with negative consequences. Finally, we work with the individual to end those actions. You can make positive and permanent change before it is too late.
Anger and Rage issues may become a focus for change in our lives through:
* Self-awareness
* Ultimatums
* Being served with divorce papers
* School ordered
* Employment directed
* Court ordered
Regardless of what prompts the need for change - You Can Make Positive Change!
Anger Resolution is managed through different approaches:
* Individual counseling
* Couples counseling
* Group sessions
The important point is to start now.
Call us at 281-597-9291 or find out more information at Contact Us page to discuss which anger resolution approach is best suited for you. You, and your loved ones, will be glad you followed through this time.
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