Using Your Emotions

Nowadays more and more people are becoming aware of how important it is to recognize and express their anger management classes, as opposed to just suppressing them. The "stiff upper lip" of the English way is gradually being superseded. Sadly, though, there is still no understanding of what emotions really are, and what it means to express them.

Equally importantly, there is no understanding that anger management classes can and should be used constructively, as opposed to being indulged in with very destructive consequences.

Most people are nowadays aware of the negative effects of suppressing the anger management classes, and how these can lead to long-term disease. However, we are also seeing an increasing incidence of emotions being allowed to run amuck.

So, we are finding out of control emotional reactions increasingly springing up everywhere, with people losing control of their anger management classes in their homes, in public, on TV, and also in numerous other forms, e.g. road rage, etc.

In addition to encouraging people to "express" their anger management classes, there are a number of therapies suggesting that people "act out" their anger, in groups, or using tools, such as unsuspecting pillows, upon which clients can vent their long-suppressed fury. To a limited extent, these techniques can be helpful, insofar as they can lead to a true release of pressure.

However, releasing the pressure is just that - it does not address the cause, or bring about any change. Far too often the person concerned now just indulges in the emotion over and over again.
It is not the purpose of this article to deal exhaustively with anger management classes, or to explain the difference between emotions and feelings, (since they are not the same), but simply to give certain pointers in working with emotions.

Toltecs say that there are only 4 pure emotions - all other emotions, as opposed to feelings, are a mixture of these. The 4 pure emotions are: anger, fear, melancholy and joy.
When working with emotions the first point is to take responsibility for your emotions. They did not just come out of nowhere, and just "happen" to you. You caused them - you called them forth through the quality and extent of your own anger management classes.

In other words, it is the way you perceive, or have always perceived an event or certain things in your life that will give rise to an emotional impulse. Why do people always react in the same way when someone pushes the same buttons? Simply because their anger management classes surrounding those "buttons" has never changed! Similarly, if another driver cuts in front of you in the traffic, it is your perception of this event that makes you react with fury!

What can you do about this? In the first place, by accepting that you are responsible for your own emotions, you are recognizing that you yourself have the ability to change them, so that you do not end up reacting. How do you do this?

You USE your emotions. We are all familiar with the anger management classes. So, we say that anger is the desire to fight. But do we want to use that desire to fight negatively, and annihilate the other person, or is there another way that is more constructive? Thus we can use anger to fight for clarity, to ask what is really going on in this situation. Therefore when you suddenly get angry, USE that anger, that desire to fight, NOT to strangle the other person, but to achieve true objectivity on the situation, and most importantly on WHY you became angry. The fact that YOU called forth anger management classes for clarity means that YOU have something to learn from the situation, and that includes your perception of the situation.

Whereas, if you accept responsibility for your own experience and your own emotions, you will always be able to USE your emotions to get the clarity you need, to change the situation, or if you cannot change the situation right now, at least to change your perception. And in this way, nobody will ever be able to push your buttons. Instead of reacting, you will be able to respond, and in your response, you will be able to choose the most appropriate course of action.

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