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When the judge or your spouse or your boss says you need to get into an anger
management program and change now, the last thing you want to do is spend
the next 2 months going to anger management meetings once a week and listen to
some guy lecture you on how to straighten out your head. With your marriage or
your job on the line - not to mention a possible trip to jail - you want to
get
started immediately, so you can fix what needs to be fixed and get on
with your life.
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Anger Management Class
Immediate Court Ordered Seminar CertificateRegistration Fee Includes:
*Nationally recognized by State & Local Family Courts & Probation Departments
*No Other Fees or Charges - NONE!
*Free Nationally Recognized Certificate of Completion
*Free Best Selling 216 Page Book by noted author James A. Baker
(not required to take or finish the online anger class)
*Course written, edited and produced by an experienced Lawyer
with extensive Family Court experience & knowledge.
Our powerful online anger management courses cover everything
most live classroom anger management courses and anger management seminars cover, plus
they add a lot more!
You receive:
- Open access to the self-scoring Online Anger Management Classes of your choice.
- Immediate access to your certified court ordered anger management class certificate upon completion.
- Free Copy of the best selling Anger Management
Training Book "The Anger Busting™ Workbook" - 216 pages
by noted author James A. (Jim) Baker. The best selling book
is NOT necessary to take or complete the anger management class.
For one low price, you will have three (3) months
access to your Online Course so that can move at your own pace without being
held back by a class-full of people you don't have a thing in common with except
the need to get your Anger Certificate and to get your anger problems
under control. With our online anger courses, you can cut through the red tape
and get right down to business. The sooner you start and the harder you work,
the quicker you will begin to make progress and get your life back.
 Those
who have already completed this practical and powerful online course tell us it
not only fulfills their court-mandated anger management requirement, it also
REALLY WORKS! They have been able to improve the way they deal with anger, and
it has made a big difference in their relationships with their spouses, friends
and coworkers. It is also fast and easy to do!
Our
Online Anger Busting Anger Management Course is the most thorough and
comprehensive programs of its kind. Everything you need to help you begin to
CHANGE NOW is included. You can do the lessons from your computer in the comfort
and privacy of your own home, accessing the online course material one lesson at
a time using passwords we provide for you after you have paid for the and
registered for the Online Class. All you have to supply is the courage and
discipline to do the lessons, and then faithfully practice what you learn. When
you have completed all 24 lessons and quizzes, you will receive a certificate of
completion you can present to the court which has been signed by the bestselling
author of the Anger Busting Workbook, James A. Baker.
Click here for information
on how to register for the Online Anger Busting Anger™ Management Course using a
major credit card. The fee is only $65 and signing up is easy so you can get
started today! You also receive a free copy of James A. Baker's Best Selling
Book "The Anger Busting Workbook" which you will receive within three to four
business days after signing up. You do not need the workbook to take the online
class or to receive the Online Anger Management Certificate of Completion.
Please Note:
In order to maintain our affordable pricing:
- Live support is NOT included with the online courses.
- Live support is available at an additional cost but you probably won't
need any.
- Save time & money by referring to our FAQ
for course assistance.
Good luck as you begin your Online Anger Managment road to recovery.
Sincerely,
James A. (Jim) Baker
Anger and
Family
Every
parent since the beginning of time has been painfully
aware that children can do a great many things to irritate,
frustrate, and otherwise turn the pleasant feelings
of their caretakers into moods
from hell. Those same creatures who look like little
darlings when they sleep can almost at their whim produce
headaches,
upset stomachs, jangled nerves, strained muscles, aching
bones, and overloaded emotional and sensory circuits.
But there’s one thing that even the most exuberant
or obstinate of children cannot do: They can’t
make us angry. They cannot force us to give up
internal regulation of our emotional
experience. To understand this scientific fact that
seems to fly in the face of common sense, consider the
psychobiological
function of anger.
Why
Anger is a Problem in Families
An
automatic response
triggered whenever we feel threatened, anger
is the most powerful of all emotional experience. The
only emotion that activates every muscle group and organ
of the body, anger exists to mobilize the instinctual
fight or flight
response meant to protect us from predators. Of
course, our children are not predators. For the
vast majority of problems in family life, anger
constitutes overkill and under-think. Applying this
survival-level fight or flight response to everyday
problems of family living is like using a rock to
turn off a lamp or a tank to repair a computer.
Is
anyone really stupid enough to turn off a lamp with
a rock? When angry, everybody is that stupid. The problem
has nothing to do with intelligence, it has to do with
how hurt we are. Anger is always a
reaction to hurt. It can be physical pain, which
is why, when you bang your thumb with a hammer while
trying to hang a picture, you don’t pray.
Far
more often, though, anger is a reaction to psychological
hurt or threat of
hurt, in the form of a diminished sense of self.
Vulnerability
to psychological hurt depends entirely on how you feel
about yourself. When your sense of self is weak or disorganized,
anything can make you irritable or angry. When it’s
solid and well-integrated, the insults and frustrations
of life just roll off your back.
For
instance, if you’ve had a bad day, if you’re
feeling guilty, a little bit like a
failure, or just disregarded, devalued, or irritable,
you might come home to find your kid’s shoes in
the middle of the floor and respond with: "That
lazy, selfish, inconsiderate, little brat!" Yet
you can come home after a great day of feeling fine
about yourself, see the same shoes in the middle of
the floor and think, "Oh, that’s just Jimmy
or Sally," and not think twice about it.
The
difference in your
reaction to the child’s behavior lies entirely
within you and depends completely on how you feel about
yourself. In the first case the child’s behavior
seems to diminish your sense of self: "If he cared
about me, he wouldn’t do this; if my own kid doesn’t
care about me, I must not be worth caring about."
The anger is to punish the child for your diminished
sense of self. In the second instance, the child’s
behavior does not diminish your sense of personal importance,
value, power, and lovability. So there is no need for
anger. You don’t need a tank to solve the
problem of the shoes in the middle of the floor. Rather,
the problem to be solved is how to teach the child to
be more considerate
in his behavior; you won’t do that by humiliating
him because you feel humiliated. His reaction to humiliation
will be the same as yours: an inability see the other
person’s perspective, an overwhelming urge to
blame, and an impulse
for revenge or punishment.
Modeling
Anger Regulation for Children
Although
their intellectual maturity is far less advanced than
that of their parents, children experience
anger for the same reasons as adults, mostly
to defend the sense of self from pain and temporary
diminishment. At the moment of anger, both children
and adults feel bad about themselves. Making angry people
feel worse about themselves will only make things worse.
Rather, children must learn from their parents that
the sense of self is internal and can be regulated only
within themselves. They must restore their own sense
of core value while respecting the rights of other people,
which means regulating the impulse for revenge through
validation of the hurt causing the urge for revenge,
and through understanding the perspective of the person
at whom the anger is directed. They will only
learn to do this by watching their parents do it.
Self-Compassion
and Compassion for Others
Mastery
of the three steps of self-compassion and compassion
for others makes us virtually immune to the ill-effects
of anger. The first step of self-compassion is
seeing beneath the symptom or defense (anger,
anxiety, manipulation, obnoxious behavior) to the cause,
which is some form of core hurt (feeling unimportant,
disregarded, accused, devalued, guilty, untrustworthy,
rejected, powerless, unlovable). Second, the core hurt
must be validated (this is how I feel at this moment),
and, third, changed (this behavior or event or disappointment
or mistake does not mean that I’m unimportant,
not valuable or lovable.) Compassion for others is recognizing
that their symptoms, defenses, and obnoxious behavior
come from a core hurt, validating it, and supporting
them while they change it. Compassion does not excuse
obnoxious behavior. Rather, it keeps us from attacking
the already wounded person, which allows focus on changing
the undesired behavior.
Anger
Regulation
Here
are a few of the common activators of anger,
which we call core hurts: feeling disregarded, unimportant,
accused, guilty, untrustworthy, devalued, rejected,
powerless, unworthy of love. Once activated, core hurts
put the sense of self at stake in solving the problem,
which greatly distorts thinking, blows the problem out
of proportion, and increases the emotional intensity
of the response. Of course the child is responsible
only for his/her behavior, not your sense of self.
To
regulate anger, we must reduce the sensitivity
of these activators. We must learn to view anger
as a signal, not to assign blame to our children for
tripping the activator, but to look within the self
to reset the activated core hurt, i.e., to restore Core
Value, a sense of personal adequacy and worthiness.
With the sense of self no longer at stake, the problem,
no longer a source of self-diminishment, can be solved
for what it is: a call for more attention/effort, an
inconvenience, disappointment, or mistake.
Emotional
regulation skills can be learned fairly
quickly in three concentrated learning sessions, with
consistent practice between sessions. But whether learned
through training or through personal experience that
internally regulates anger activators, successful
parenting, personal happiness, optimal work efficiency,
physical and psychological health, and the capacity
to sustain viable attachment relationships demands self-regulation
of the impulse to anger and resentment.
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