in the 1700's there was a British physician called John
Hunter. He had a very bad
temper and, not surprisingly, suffered from a heart
disorder called angina pectoris. And he had a habit
of remarking: "My life is at the mercy of any scoundrel
who chooses to put me in a passion".
proved quite prophetic. At a meeting of the board of
St. Georges Hospital in London he became involved in
a heated argument,
walked out, and dropped dead...
relationships, liberty & self
Most people are aware that on-going
anger can eventually lead to a number of physical
illnesses, notably heart disease.
it also has other, and much more immediate, unpleasant
effects. It consumes huge amounts of mental and
physical energy, takes from our enjoyment of life, interferes
with constructive and useful thinking, threatens
our relationships and career prospects, undermines
our self esteem
and, in extremes, can so obsesses
us that it crowds most other thoughts from our minds.
makes you the victim!
After an angry exchange you can be affected you for
hours or even days as you endlessly go over the event
in your mind, churning up the
anger feelings and adding to them. And during this
period your mood is being ruled by the memory of the
are angry with and not by you. You
are a victim of the event.
you allow someone else's behaviour to make
you angry you are indeed the
victim. They are likely to go off and forget about
it. You are being controlled
by them without their even knowing about it - as you
fume and fret and
relive the event for days or months afterwards - while
trying to enjoy yourself with friends or family, while
relaxing on the beach, or while trying to sleep at night.