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Online Anger Management
When the judge or your spouse or your boss says you need to get into an anger
management program and change now, the last thing you want to do is spend
the next 2 months going to anger management meetings once a week and listen to
some guy lecture you on how to straighten out your head. With your marriage or
your job on the line - not to mention a possible trip to jail - you want to
get
started immediately, so you can fix what needs to be fixed and get on
with your life.
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*Free Best Selling 216 Page Book by noted author James A. Baker
(not required to take or finish the online anger class)
*Course written, edited and produced by an experienced Lawyer
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Our powerful online anger management courses cover everything
most live classroom anger management courses and anger management seminars cover, plus
they add a lot more!
You receive:
- Open access to the self-scoring Online Anger Management Classes of your choice.
- Immediate access to your certified court ordered anger management class certificate upon completion.
- Free Copy of the best selling Anger Management
Training Book "The Anger Busting™ Workbook" - 216 pages
by noted author James A. (Jim) Baker. The best selling book
is NOT necessary to take or complete the anger management class.
For one low price, you will have three (3) months
access to your Online Course so that can move at your own pace without being
held back by a class-full of people you don't have a thing in common with except
the need to get your Anger Certificate and to get your anger problems
under control. With our online anger courses, you can cut through the red tape
and get right down to business. The sooner you start and the harder you work,
the quicker you will begin to make progress and get your life back.
Those
who have already completed this practical and powerful online course tell us it
not only fulfills their court-mandated anger management requirement, it also
REALLY WORKS! They have been able to improve the way they deal with anger, and
it has made a big difference in their relationships with their spouses, friends
and coworkers. It is also fast and easy to do!
Our
Online Anger Busting Anger Management Course is the most thorough and
comprehensive programs of its kind. Everything you need to help you begin to
CHANGE NOW is included. You can do the lessons from your computer in the comfort
and privacy of your own home, accessing the online course material one lesson at
a time using passwords we provide for you after you have paid for the and
registered for the Online Class. All you have to supply is the courage and
discipline to do the lessons, and then faithfully practice what you learn. When
you have completed all 24 lessons and quizzes, you will receive a certificate of
completion you can present to the court which has been signed by the bestselling
author of the Anger Busting Workbook, James A. Baker.
Click here for information
on how to register for the Online Anger Busting Anger™ Management Course using a
major credit card. The fee is only $65 and signing up is easy so you can get
started today! You also receive a free copy of James A. Baker's Best Selling
Book "The Anger Busting Workbook" which you will receive within three to four
business days after signing up. You do not need the workbook to take the online
class or to receive the Online Anger Management Certificate of Completion.
Please Note:
In order to maintain our affordable pricing:
- Live support is NOT included with the online courses.
- Live support is available at an additional cost but you probably won't
need any.
- Save time & money by referring to our FAQ
for course assistance.
Good luck as you begin your Online Anger Managment road to recovery.
Sincerely,
James A. (Jim) Baker
Anger in the Workplace:
What is Anger? The Nature of Anger
Anger
is "an emotional
state that varies in intensity from mild irritation
to intense fury and rage," according
to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes
in the study of anger. Like other emotions, it is accompanied
by physiological and biological changes; when you get
angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go
up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline,
and noradrenaline.
Anger can be caused by both external
and internal events. You could be angry at
a specific person (Such as a coworker or supervisor)
or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your
anger could be caused by worrying or brooding
about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic
or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings.
Expressing Anger
The
instinctive, natural way to express anger is
to respond
aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive
response to threats; it inspires powerful, often
aggressive, feelings
and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend
ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of
anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival.
On the other hand, we can't physically lash out at every person or object that
irritates or annoys us; laws, social norms, and common sense place limits on
how far our anger can take us.
People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious
processes to deal with
their angry feelings. The three main approaches
are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing
your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner
is the healthiest way to express
anger. To do this, you have to learn how
to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them
met, without hurting others. Being assertive doesn't
mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful
of yourself and others.
Anger
can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected.
This happens when you hold in your anger, stop
thinking about it, and focus on something positive.
The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger
and convert it into more constructive
behavior. The danger in this type of response is
that if it isn't allowed
outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on
yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension,
high blood pressure, or depression.
Unexpressed
anger can create other problems. It can lead
to pathological expressions of anger, such as
passive-aggressive
behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without
telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on)
or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and
hostile. People who are constantly putting others down,
criticizing everything, and making cynical comments
haven't learned how to constructively express their
anger. Not surprisingly, they aren't likely to
have many successful
relationships.
Finally, you can calm down inside. This means not just
controlling your outward
behavior, but also controlling your internal responses,
taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself
down, and let the feelings subside.
As Dr. Spielberger notes, "when none of these three techniques work,
that's when someone—or something—is going to get hurt."
Anger Management
The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional
feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get
rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change
them, but you can learn to control your reactions.
Are You Too Angry?
There are psychological tests that measure the intensity
of angry feelings, how prone
to anger you are, and how well you handle
it. But chances are good that if you do have a problem
with anger, you already know it. If you find
yourself acting in ways that seem out of control and
frightening, you might need help finding better ways
to deal with this emotion.
Why Are Some People More Angry Than Others?
According to Jerry Deffenbacher, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in anger
management, some people really are more "hotheaded" than others
are; they get angry more easily and more intensely than the average person does.
There are also those who don't show their anger in loud spectacular ways
but are chronically irritable and grumpy. Easily angered people don't
always curse and throw things; sometimes they withdraw socially, sulk, or get
physically ill.
People who are easily angered generally have what some psychologists
call a low tolerance for frustration, meaning simply that they feel that they
should not have to be subjected to frustration, inconvenience, or annoyance.
They can't take things in stride, and they're particularly infuriated if the
situation seems somehow unjust: for example, being corrected for a minor mistake.
What makes these people this way?
A number of things. One cause may be genetic or physiological: There is evidence
that some children are born irritable, touchy, and easily angered, and that
these signs are present from a very early age. Another may be sociocultural.
Anger is often regarded as negative; we're taught that it's all right to express
anxiety, depression, or other emotions but not to express anger. As a result,
we don't learn how to handle it or channel it constructively.
Research has also found that family background plays a role. Typically, people
who are easily angered come from families that are disruptive, chaotic, and
not skilled at emotional communications.
Is It Good To "Let it All Hang Out?
"Psychologists now
say that this is a dangerous myth. Some people use this theory as a license
to hurt others. Research has found that "letting it rip" with anger
actually escalates anger and aggression and does nothing to help you
(or the person you're angry with) resolve the situation.
It's best to find out what it is that triggers your anger, and then to
develop strategies to keep those triggers from tipping you over the edge.
Strategies To Keep Anger At Bay
Relaxation
Simple relaxation tools,
such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings.
There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques,
and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation.
If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered,
it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques.
- Some simple steps you can try:
- Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm;
breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from
your "gut."
- Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase
such as "relax," "take it easy." Repeat it to yourself
while breathing deeply.
- Use imagery; visualize a relaxing
experience, from either your memory or your imagination.
- Nonstrenuous, slow yoga-like exercises
can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.
Practice these techniques
daily. Learn to use them automatically when you're in a tense situation.
Cognitive Restructuring
Simply put, this means changing the
way you think. Angry people tend to curse, swear, or speak in highly colorful
terms that reflect their inner thoughts. When you're angry, your thinking can
get very exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with
more rational ones. For instance, instead of telling yourself, "oh, it's
awful, it's terrible, everything's ruined," tell yourself, "it's frustrating,
and it's understandable that I'm upset about it, but it's not the end of the
world and getting angry is not going to fix it anyhow."
Be careful of words like "never" or "always" when talking
about yourself or someone else. "This !&*%@ machine never works,"
or "you're always forgetting things" are not just inaccurate, they
also serve to make you feel that your anger is justified and that there's
no way to solve the problem. They also alienate and humiliate people who might
otherwise be willing to work with you on a solution.
Remind yourself that getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won't
make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse).
Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it's justified,
can quickly become irrational. So use cold hard logic on yourself. Remind yourself
that the world is "not out to get you," you're just experiencing some
of the rough spots of daily life. Do this each time you feel anger getting
the best of you, and it'll help you get a more balanced perspective. Angry people
tend to demand things: fairness, appreciation, agreement, willingness to do
things their way. Everyone wants these things, and we are all hurt and disappointed
when we don't get them, but angry people demand them, and when their demands
aren't met, their disappointment becomes anger. As part of their cognitive
restructuring, angry people need to become aware of their demanding nature and
translate their expectations into desires. In other words, saying, "I would
like" something is healthier than saying, "I demand" or "I
must have" something. When you're unable to get what you want, you will
experience the normal reactions—frustration, disappointment, hurt—but
not anger. Some angry people use this anger as a way to avoid
feeling hurt, but that doesn't mean the hurt goes away.
Problem Solving
Sometimes, our anger
and frustration are caused by very real and inescapable problems in our lives.
Not all anger is misplaced, and often it's a healthy, natural response
to these difficulties. There is also a cultural belief that every problem has
a solution, and it adds to our frustration to find out that this isn't always
the case. The best attitude to bring to such a situation, then, is not to focus
on finding the solution, but rather on how you handle and face the problem.
Make a plan, and check your progress along the way. Resolve to give it your
best, but also not to punish yourself if an answer doesn't come right away.
If you can approach it with your best intentions and efforts and make a serious
attempt to face it head-on, you will be less likely to lose patience and fall
into all-or-nothing thinking, even if the problem does not get solved right
away.
Better Communication
Angry people tend to jump to—and
act on—conclusions, and some of those conclusions can be very inaccurate.
The first thing to do if you're in a heated discussion is slow down and think
through your responses. Don't say the first thing that comes into your head,
but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time,
listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before
answering.
Listen, too, to what is underlying the anger. For instance, you like
a certain amount of freedom and personal space, and your "significant other"
wants more connection and closeness. If he or she starts complaining about your
activities, don't retaliate by painting your partner as a jailer, a warden,
or an albatross around your neck.
It's natural to get defensive when you're criticized, but don't fight back.
Instead, listen to what's underlying the words: the message that this person
might feel neglected and unloved. It may take a lot of patient questioning on
your part, and it may require some breathing space, but don't let your anger—or
a partner's—let a discussion spin out of control. Keeping your cool can
keep the situation from becoming a disastrous one.
Using Humor
"Silly humor" can help defuse rage in a number of ways.
For one thing, it can help you get a more balanced perspective. When you get
angry and call someone a name or refer to them in some imaginative phrase, stop
and picture what that word would literally look like. If you're at work and
you think of a coworker as a "dirtbag" or a "single-cell life
form," for example, picture a large bag full of dirt (or an amoeba) sitting
at your colleague's desk, talking on the phone, going to meetings. Do this whenever
a name comes into your head about another person. If you can, draw a picture
of what the actual thing might look like. This will take a lot of the edge off
your fury; and humor can always be relied on to help unknot a tense situation.
The underlying message of highly angry people, Dr. Deffenbacher says, is "things
oughta go my way!" Angry people tend to feel that they are morally right,
that any blocking or changing of their plans is an unbearable indignity and
that they should NOT have to suffer this way. Maybe other people do, but not
them!
When you feel that urge, he suggests, picture yourself as a god or goddess,
a supreme ruler, who owns the streets and stores and office space, striding
alone and having your way in all situations while others defer to you. The more
detail you can get into your imaginary scenes, the more chances you have to
realize that maybe you are being unreasonable; you'll also realize how unimportant
the things you're angry about really are. There are two cautions in using humor.
First, don't try to just "laugh off" your problems; rather, use humor
to help yourself face them more constructively. Second, don't give in to harsh,
sarcastic humor; that's just another form of unhealthy anger expression.
What these techniques have in common is a refusal to take yourself too
seriously. Anger is a serious emotion, but it's often accompanied by
ideas that, if examined, can make you laugh.
Changing Your Environment
Sometimes it's our immediate surroundings that give us cause for irritation
and fury. Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry
at the "trap" you seem to have fallen into and all the people and
things that form that trap.
Give yourself a break. Make sure you have some "personal time" scheduled
for times of the day that you know are particularly stressful. One example is
the working mother who has a standing rule that when she comes home from work,
for the first 15 minutes "nobody talks to Mom unless the house is on fire."
After this brief quiet time, she feels better prepared to handle demands from
her kids without blowing up at them.
Some Other Tips for Easing Up on Yourself
Timing: If you and your spouse
tend to fight when you discuss things at night—perhaps you're tired, or
distracted, or maybe it's just habit—try changing the times when you talk
about important matters so these talks don't turn into arguments.
Avoidance: If your child's
chaotic room makes you furious every time you walk by it, shut the door. Don't
make yourself look at what infuriates you. Don't say, "well, my child should
clean up the room so I won't have to be angry!" That's not the point. The
point is to keep yourself calm.
Finding alternatives: If your daily commute through traffic leaves
you in a state of rage and frustration, give yourself a project—learn
or map out a different route, one that's less congested or more scenic. Or find
another alternative, such as a bus or commuter train.
Do You Need Counseling?
If you feel that your anger
is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and
on important parts of your life, you might consider counseling to learn how
to handle it better. A psychologist or other licensed mental health professional
can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your
thinking and your behavior.
When you talk to a prospective therapist, tell her or him that you have problems
with anger that you want to work on, and ask about his or her approach
to anger management. Make sure this isn't only a course of action
designed to "put you in touch with your feelings and express them"—that
may be precisely what your problem is. With counseling, psychologists say, a
highly angry person can move closer to a middle range of anger in about
8 to 10 weeks, depending on the circumstances and the techniques used.
What About Assertiveness Training?
It's true that angry people need to learn to become assertive (rather than aggressive),
but most books and courses on developing assertiveness are aimed at people who
don't feel enough anger. These people are more passive and acquiescent
than the average person; they tend to let others walk all over them. That isn't
something that most angry people do. Still, these books can contain some useful
tactics to use in frustrating situations. Remember, you can't eliminate anger—and
it wouldn't be a good idea if you could. In spite of all your efforts, things
will happen that will cause you anger; and sometimes it will be justifiable
anger. Life will be filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable
actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let
such events affect you. Controlling your angry responses can keep them from
making you even more unhappy in the long run.
American Psychological Association
"An addiction is anything you do that keeps you from dealing with your feelings.'
You may not think that statement (source unknown) hits a home run, but you pretty much have to agree it's at least in the ballpark.
People can be quite creative in finding ways to suppress their feelings: street drugs, alcohol, prescription drugs, overeating, temper tantrums, and on and on. A major source of negative feelings that people don't want to deal with is stress.
We are all too familiar with the common causes: our chaotic schedules, frustrations at work and home, prolonged unemployment, and economic concerns in general. Add to these the lack of skills to manage stress, and it's a short path from major stress to unbridled anger. But help is available, and where there's help there's hope. Our Anger management online class offers both help and hope because we teach the skills, practices and techniques to control anger.
No one denies that uncontrolled anger is bad not only for emotional, but also for physical health. The professionals who design and teach our anger management online class start by explaining why uncontrolled anger is such a serious problem for the person who displays it, and for the people who are the victims of it. The classes also feature an array of helpful activities: relaxation therapies, meditation techniques, and ways to improve self-esteem and to avoid pessimistic feelings. These classes also give participants a platform for speaking up about their concerns, but perhaps the most valuable thing the anger management classes offer participants is access to expert help.
Agencies and organization that offer traditional anger management online classes are also reaching out to the generation(s) that stay glued to the Internet with our anger management online class. Our anger management online class, like the traditional ones, have been designed after thorough study research about anger and its implications. Add to that the flexibility of being able do the coursework any time of the day or night and at any place where your computer can access the Internet, and it's easy to see why our anger management online class is so popular.
Everyone gets angry from time to time, but when the degree and frequency increase to the point that your anger interferes with your ability to work, carry out family responsibilities, and maintain your self esteem, you would be wise to seek out the help that is available. Don't get stuck in a rut of anger, when online anger management classes can make such a positive difference.
Almost every day it seems that TV and newspapers (remember them?) feature domestic and child abuse, actions that police would label "crimes against persons," and even killings, whether in this country or overseas. Look behind the video images and the headlines and you're likely to find compounded stress and uncontrolled anger lurking in the details.
Stress is so much a part of our lives that we have given up on eliminating it, but that doesn't mean we should forego managing it. Actually since stress shows no signs of going away, it's even more important that we learn ways to cope with its effects, including both emotional and physical health problems. On top of that, it's a very short step from compounded stress to uncontrolled anger. Those who don't learn to manage stress often end up needing to learn how to rein in their anger. This is where well-designed anger courses come in.
If you feel like you're under pressure all the time despite your best efforts to manage your feelings, that's a sign that you want to "head it off at the pass" before the situation gets worse. The "you" that used to look forward to challenges and displayed a zeal to achieve now is passive and pessimistic. To ratchet it up another level, if you are concerned and frustrated because what was simmering stress is now boiled-over anger, that's a billboard-size sign that you need to get help to cool things down A.S.A P. A good place to get that help is a well-designed anger management class. More and more people who feel like they've almost forgotten how to smile are signing up for anger management classes for assistance and support in getting their lives back on track.
Another option that is rapidly gaining followers is online anger management classes. When online anger management classes were first being offered a few years ago, some people were quite skeptical about them. They thought that face-to-face classes were the real deal, and that online classes were a pale substitute. The explosive growth of the Internet has taken care of many of those early doubts and criticisms because so many things we used to do in person are now dealt with online quite well. Today when people learn that online anger management classes provide the same course material and the same kind of support you would get in a traditional face-to-face class, they are more willing to give them a try. Speaking of support, like almost all of the other kinds of courses being offered via the Internet, online anger management classes include facilitators whose job it is to help with computer and Internet questions, as well as basic course questions such as when is the next assignment due?
Increasing stress and uncontrolled anger are a double whammy that is really tough to get a handle on by yourself. But the professional help available in anger training and online anger management classes can get you over the hump and on the road to a better life with more achievement. Who knows? You might even learn how to smile again a lot faster than you expected.
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